Husbands and wives could very well be surprised if they knew the thoughts of their spouse. Unless their intimacy and communication are closely linked and well developed, it is highly likely that what's going on inside their respective minds is not being shared. Moreover, husbands and wives could each learn great lessons from the other. But first they would have to believe that their spouse has something to say that's worth listening to. Many don't have such a belief.
But God ordained the institution of marriage and intends it to be a sacred, life-giving institution. So what would it require for you to see your marriage in such a light? What present circumstances would have to change?